Crossroads as defined in the Webster Dictionary is "A Junction where one street or road crosses another. Another definition states: "A road that crosses another" ; "an obscure road intersecting or avoiding the main road". In peoples' lives, crossroads may not be defined as a simple going through an intersection mode. It specifically means that one person may be going through a major transition in his life. Men in their 40's may find crossroads as something significant as they may tackle a midlife crisis. I myself am a good example of that. Being in their Mid 40's is probably an age where most men would be scared of having. I am blessed with the fact that at 45 I seem to feel like I have just started living. After 22 years of working for a Manufacturing Company and 4 companies in the last 2 years, I begin to value the time I have left to nurture relationship with others and the people I love(my 2 kids including). Yes, I am a single parent and although without a partner right now(Currently have a girlfriend) do still know how it feels to be as young as somebody in his 20's.
One thing I have learned as I lived for the past 45 years that you can never stop dreaming. Although one's dreams may differ from the time they were young, it is still what fuels them into action. I would remember during the 70's when I was still in High School about my parents telling me to finish College no matter what. For them it was the ultimate goal, both of them being non-graduates at that time. As history have it I finished College and Graduated Bachelor of Science in Mechanical Engineering(MIT) thanks to my Parents. Times do really change. I still say the same things to my kids, but with a prodding to finish College so that they can be employed and later have a business of their own. The Chinese did this decades ago and is the reason why a lot of them are financially successful right now. I remember also saying this during a Youth Camp I organized last March 2010 for the College Students of Ateneo and UP. However, I do say afterwards that for them to really have a prosperous life is to live for others..... Being a blessing to them that is(Loving them the same way that God loved us)...... to me that is The Ultimate Goal.
Indeed, time do change. As time or years pass our priorities may change. I still have the priorities I have set years ago, but with significant additional ones. Yes, ones that does not involve me. I have to let go of the priorities that showed selfishness and the need to be famous or recognized. I have learned to understand that life is about making choices and never looking back. Life is not about getting validation from others, but obtaining it only from the One who made all of these exist. I made a constant decision to live every moment as if it were the last. It may sound profound, but it should only be the only way to live life through. No anger or bitterness haunting you from the past. Accepting life as it is, but never giving up. Recognizing everybody's weaknesses including your own. Truly realizing your imperfection will take you to a path of perfecting how to live life. Until you reach that final destination... Make sure you engage that crossroad that will really define who you are as He intended you to be...........
